Unity Candles & Other Unity Ceremonies

The symbolism of unity ceremonies varies in each tradition, but they all have one common concept – the unity of (at least, some unify three; the third being God) two people in marriage.

While many of the ceremonies have religious tradition or symbolism, there are quite a few unique secular unity ceremonies as well. Here’s a list to name a few!

Beer/Wine Pouring – Different, yet compatible. That sums up every relationship! Choose a wine and beer each, combine, and drink the blend together. If you’re not big alcohol drinkers or you’re hosting a dry wedding, try tea!

Blending Paint – Are you an artistic couple? This trendy ceremony is perfect! Simply pour different colored paints onto a single canvas and watch as the paint blends.

Braiding – “A cord of three strands is not easily broken,” Ecclesiastes 4:9-12. Tying the cords symbolizes the everlasting union of God, husband, and wife!

Branding – This fun ceremony is rare, but great for ranching and farming communities. It can also double as a guest book. Create a brand that you will use for years to come, and burn it onto a board at the wedding. The board can then be placed at the entrance of the reception site where guests can sign it, and then you display it in your home.

Glass Blowing – Similar to the pouring of sand (see below), this unique ceremony actually has you combining colored glass. After that, you bring the glass to a blowing studio, and they will hand craft it into a bowl or vase! Depending on the studio, you can also choose to make small gifts for friends and family out of any leftover crystals.

Handfasting – Originating from an ancient Celtic tradition, handfasting is the act of binding the bride's and groom's right hands together, symbolizing their commitment to each other.

Lasso – Also referred to as "el lazo," this ritual is a tradition in Mexican, Filipino, and Spanish cultures. The ceremony takes place directly after the vows have been exchanged. At that time, the officiant (or a designated person) drapes a floral garland or rosary around the couple, twisting it into an infinity symbol.

Planting a Tree – Nature inspired, you can plant a tree, bush, flowers, or honestly anything you want to pot together that symbolizes your marriage. Make it especially unique to the two of you by adding soil that’s been gathered from both of your hometowns.

Pouring of Sand – A traditional unity ceremony, you can pour sand into glasses, vases, and other simple containers, or get photo frames made for these wedding ceremonies that you can display in your home.

Releasing a Wish Lantern – Cute, romantic, and like something out of a movie, this ceremony is usually done well after the actual wedding portion itself. After the sun has gone down, sneak away with your photographer and light a lantern that signifies the beginning of your journey together as Mr. and Mrs., or get all of your guests involved and have a send-off like in Disney’s Tangled!

Pro tip: Check for any local restrictions; if you’re in a heavily wooded area, you may be unable to participate as it may be considered a fire hazard.

Sealing Away Love Letters/Time Capsule – Come prepared to the ceremony with a letter to each other that will be stored in a time capsule. During the wedding, place all the items in a box or container and seal it together.

Break it open one, five, or even ten years after your wedding to remember why you fell in love. Get your guests involved by asking them to bring photos, letters, or keepsakes to seal in the time capsule!

Unity Candle – One of the most common unity ceremonies. During a unity candle lighting, the bride and groom use different candles to light one central candle.

Pro tip: If you plan on doing this outside, think about a backup in case the wind picks up.